My affirmation this month: I am beautiful. I am intelligent. I am proud of who I am.
All personal breakthroughs begin with a change in beliefs. The moment we begin to honestly question our beliefs and the experiences we assign to them, we no longer feel absolutely certain about them. This opens the door to replacing your old, disempowering beliefs with new beliefs that support you in the direction you want to go.
If you develop the absolute sense of certainty that powerful beliefs provide, then you can get yourself to accomplish virtually anything, including those things other people are certain are impossible.
The challenge is, most of us do not consciously decide what we’re going to believe. Instead, often our beliefs are misinterpretations of past events. How do ideas turn into beliefs? Think of an idea like a tabletop with no legs. Without any legs, the tabletop won’t even stand up by itself. Belief, on the other hand, has legs. To believe something, you have references to support the idea—specific experiences that back up the belief. These are the legs that make your tabletop solid and that make you certain about your beliefs.
I challenge you, challenge you to redefine how you believe the world sees you, what you believe your worth to be. What’s your affirmation today?
Every day, we are faced with so many frustrations, all of which drive us to dislike or even hate others. For doing something ‘stupid’ or (frequently to my frustration) ‘not doing something’. When do we acknowledge the value of people at their current state rather then holding them up to the unattainable expectations we place on ourselves? If we ourselves are not happy with where, who and why we are, what gives us the right to hold these expectations on others?
When I moved here, I quickly realized that I was facing not only a major culture shock but also lost compassion, from and for others. I felt that people didn’t realize how wonderful my life had been where I was and how dearly I would miss it, instead all I heard was how brave I was or more often, how bizarre I was to have even liked that lifestyle. In response, I criticized them for not understanding or being open to listening with an open mind or heart.
Over time, I began to hold on to that feeling and it slowly manifested into a form of hate. A kind that eats you up on the inside. Over time, I swung from rebel to leader in life, at work and amongst friends. In time I learned that I was one person trying to fight an ocean, a pointless battle. What I learned was to accept people as they are no matter how difficult and that trying to change anyone is not only selfish, controlling and morally wrong, it’s impossible.
I now love people for their fallacies first and their successes second. Though the hardest is not accepting others, it is accepting oneself.
It is so important to take a break, recharge and reset. In today’s world, we are always challenging ourselves to do more and more in shorter days and extending ourselves farther than the Internet can stretch us. I myself often fall victim to the very idea that I have to keep going and keep doing.
I’ve pushed myself, and those around me, to the point of utter frustration and lost hope and friends. Now I hold regrets and wonder why I let them/myself go. The important thing that I can take away from the experience though is the need to gain perspective about what is uniquely important to me and craft a life that supports that purpose around it.
Without this inward approach, aren’t we setting ourselves up for a quarter life crisis not knowing how we fit in to this world? Resenting other’s because of their expectations and ourselves for our submissive approach to appease. There is an old saying ‘you can’t be everything to everyone’ and I used to wholeheartedly believe I simply had to be just that. Everything to Everyone.
Only recently, realizing the reality of where my life was and now is, feeling deprived and angry at ‘what could have been,’ am I taking a moment to confront my inner overachiever. If only I could have had this very conversation with my younger self barely five years ago, I feel like I would have been in a very different place today.